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We made it through the first week of the new year

We as millennial POC women of color are winning right now, we are educating ourselves, starting businesses, drinking water.....

Just winning....

But to continue to win, there are a few things we gotta tighten up and most importantly give up in 2018.... Now brace yourselves,this is going to sound like a read session,ladies...... And it’s not.... Because I am honestly taking my own advice on ALOT of these so its easy for me to share...

18 Things to give up in 2k18
Standby for lots of the use of the words ‘sis’, ‘Beloved ‘ and few gay colloquialisms 
(I’ll  address that in this post too)



1- Body shamming- Lets not do this in ANY form! We won't shame sis with the fake ass or the one with the double chin, both of y'all are beautiful..... If you want to get your ass done,gastic bypass or do it all au natural..... Love your best life, sis.

2- Acting like water, fruits,vegtables or books are kryptonite- Lets take care of our mental and physical ..... We can spend a rack on red bottoms but not $6 on a case of water to fight a UTI ? Nah,let’s stop.....

3-  Being the ‘side chic’- Sis, Sza is really gonna get one if y’all badly hurt (if she hasn’t already),her man (or woman because some of y’all foul too ) is not yours and that goes for ANY day ..

4- To my ‘woke’ ,’spiritual’,’natural’ and some vegans sisters, stop shaming those sisters who don’t live like you... Let’s be honest, most of us started out with box relaxers sitting in church on Sundays and having pork chops after.....
You ain’t better than anyone with your new beliefs,Boo Boo.....Sit down, be humble.

5- This year we are gonna stop not supporting our homegirls business.... Repost her flyer,YouTube channel,tag her when someone needs her services,refer her to someone ESPECIALLY when you want her to do your make up or hair for free or super deep discount  (you know she don’t use cheap products) ....

6- Matter of fact let’s leave asking for discounts or free services of our friends in 2017 too.... You can’t possibly say that you love someone while ripping food out their mouths... You can’t negotiate with Kanye ,Lebron or Gucci, give them their rights,Sis.

7- While we are talking business, entrepreneurs and small business owners PLEASE STOP shaming those who are working conventional jobs ,they are your clients/customers and yeah you can’t see how they do it but that’s how they pay you for your services ....  


8- Cisgender heterosexual women,PLEASE leave the LGBT  colloquialisms that you have learned watching by your favorite reality star culture vulture in 2017..... Beloved you aren’t slaying anything,you aren’t serving face and the fact that you only got 3 pieces of turkey bacon with your omelet is NOT shade.... While we are at it, please stop having your bachelorette parties at gay clubs,because if one you see your man in there it’s gonna hurt ...... #noTeaNoShade

9- If you can’t claim him on your taxes,you can’t take care of him (or her), so I get it you have fallen for the potential of someone,they need a little help (God knows I get it),you watched Gucci and Keyshia story... whatever the case is,but this year sis ,do not invest more into your partner than they have invested into themselves ,you can’t ,it’s unhealthy,expensive and disrupts your growth...

10- I may ruffle a few feathers with this one,and I don’t care.....
But STOP DISRESPECTING OUR TRANS SISTERS! 
I am going to say this again, STOP DISRESPECTING TRANSWOMEN.
Here is the thing,we follow WOMEN like Amiyah Scott and Shauna Brooks on social media, literally  steal their style, and go out to disrespect next b*tch who lives the same truth.......You can't out a girl as a defense mechanism, grow up Sis......It makes you look, weak.


11- Lets stop deading friendships with our girls,but taking the same f*ck boy back 8 Times... Friends aren't forever, however a good female friend is harder to come by than the perfect size 44DD at a Lane Bryant sale, and honestly things happen... So why dead a girl for a misunderstanding/miscommunication but still taking back the same asshole who cheated on you....twice.

12- Stop 'securing a bag' if you aren't going to secure your heart (and mind to for that matter).... We have made it a priority to walk around in 'bloody shoes' but whole time we are walking around with broken hearts, and minds... Projecting our insecurities ,mommy issues (be it as the mother or the child, or both) and childhood drama on anyone  who looks our way twice.

13-We are going to STOP being finically illiterate, due to the stale Cheeto in office our finances are so uncertain on so many levels, that we have to be realistic about our futures more now than ever.
So lets increase those dollars we are putting into our 401k (or opening one), buy some stocks ( I totally dropped the ball AGAIN on the Weight Watchers stock, who knew DJ Khaled was going to get on board? ), and exploring our jobs options for retirement ...


14-  We are going to leave unhealthy hair (and stylist) in 2017,and stop spending more on our bundles than our own hair .... Now I gotta admit I LOVE my bundles (shoutouts to Foreign Strandzz in Cleveland,Ohio ) and yea I find it to be more fun to rock my inches but I do maintain a somewhat healthy head of thick curly hair under it all (not every chic who is bundled is bald ) 
So let’s invest in someone who loves healthy hair,makes it fun and gives hair care knowledge and stop letting every other heffa with needle ,thread and flatiron in our head ...

15- We are going to stop glorifying this ‘savage’ shit this year.....
 Let us stop pretending that we are heartless,unbothered and like we don’t need love..... I know Rih said that shit in a song,but remember she got a millionaire that is loving her ass....
Sis,savages are beast,no one wife’s them.  
sav·age
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  1. 1
    (chiefly in historical or literary contexts) a member of a people regarded as primitive and uncivilized.

16- We are going to leave our garbage eating habits too.... Now I know this is a hard one because my favorite food group used to be the fried one, okay so Im not exactly sure if that one is on the food pyramid ..... 
But I digress 
But I am going to be real candid on this one, okay... 
So if you are easily offended, uhh you shouldn't have been here in the first place?
We are gonna eat better to feel better, to taste better, to live better.... We can't live off mcDoubles, sour patch kids and diet Coke and wonder why we feel like hell all the time and our box taste like car keys and battery acid. Lets get a probiotic, some fresh fruits ,veggies, and WATER so we can be amazed how much better we feel...

17- Let us staying in one place be a thing of 2017, there is a whole big world outside of our local bars and clubs....Let's see it! 
Take a trip, be it a baecation,a girls trip, or my personal favorite a solo adventure, see something that can change your view of world.... You deserve it.

18- Lastly, the the last thing we are going to leave in 2017 is weight.... 
Be it physical, spiritual, mental, etc, we are going to leave it all there and progress on a path of happiness, empowerment  wellness, prosperity and shit, smiles! I have heard some horror stories of 2017, but we aren't bringing that weight into 2018, we are gonna flourish because we are lighter from the burdens, drama ,heartbreak, etc that we left 9 days ago.


Happy New Year, Sis
 x0x0, 
Cookii

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