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Protect your spirit.


As we have  approached the new year, we make our resolutions for desired bodies and budgets...

Let us not forget our spirits and how imperative it is that we protect it in this season.

As we come out the holiday most of us are worn, tired, finically drained all due to obligations that we 'think' we have to other people.... Obligations of putting ourselves in uncomfortable spaces for the sake of others and their pleasure when we know we have no place there in the first place.

January is actually named on the most depressing months of the year for the reasons mentioned above..... What a shocker?

In the past few weeks I have been thinking real hard about my career, relationships (platonic, and romantic) and the effects of this on myself.  I have found myself drained, tired, destructive and even physically ill all because of feelings I didn't want to hurt, conversations I didn't want to have, comfort of others,etc.

All because I didn't protect myself.

I know this all sounds SUPER crazy, but its real.

Our mental ultimately controls our physical more than we actually know. How and what we think is almost as important as what we consume. Think about it, the trauma experienced with losing a loved one or break up, often leads to physical illness, loss of appetite,etc..... 

We stress ourselves for what is ultimately nothing...

Yes, NOTHING! Because if we look back at these moments six months to five years from now, we often feel silly for the energy and emotion that we put into it.....

This is why I am such an advocate for self care in the moment..... 
(Even though i honestly barely do it for myself, judge your mother)

In the onset the depression, drama, pain, it is up to us to handle the moment as best we can and protect ourselves and our spirits... 

  • Stop indulging in things you don't enjoy out of obligation..... Stop thinking that you have to talk to someone because they 'need' you but it serves you no purpose,Stop thinking that you have to go somewhere when it drains you
  • Clean out one space.... I am a PACK RAT! I can't even lie and I'm working through this as we speak, but clean one space out and toss things that serve no purpose , clothes that you can't fit or don't want to fit, letters and card from an old ex that you know you aren't going back to, or my favorite my hall of fame papers ( I have maybe 4 billion folders and notebooks filled with papers Ive written in college, high school, maybe even middle school)
  • Create space for yourself, even if its 15 minutes, create a space and time to better you.... Read a 'Readers Digest' or 'Chicken Soup for the soul', hell the side of the bleach bottle if you can't find anything on the toilet, but do it for you in your space...
  • Don't be scared to withdraw, part of protecting your spirit is knowing when to draw the line with those who want to weigh us down with their problems, often not knowing that the transfer of negative energy is real...Those who are close to us often can share our misery.... I have a amazing friend who will cut you off right now if your negative vibe is too damn much...And you know what... THATS OKAY! I actually have started to do the same.... Needless to say, my phone doesn't ring as much,lol
  • Write... Paint... Draw...Make candles.... Take photos... Meditate..Zumba.. Find an outlet that lets your spirit breathe, we spend about 7.5-9 hours a day working and commuting to and from, another 8 hours sleep if we are lucky, and probably about 2-4 hours in household obligations (grocery store runs, cleaning,cooking, etc) and have done nothing that insured our growth or happiness .... WHY?
If I haven't learned anything in the past few months/week, I have learned that it is up to me to protect my own spirit, because no one else can nourish it..... And honestly, its not really their job...
I have been in so many spaces and where the writing may have been on the wall and I should have put on a pair of Michael Jackson's shoes and BEAT IT 



And I didn't, for my own reasons.... which is ultimately my own fault....

But I learned lessons, cried my tears and processed the pain as best I knew how...... However at this point in life like most of you guys, I can't afford to keep taking these blows to my heart, mental or spirit. So  I am now attempting to be proactive and urging others to do so too...


Protect your spirit,

x0x0
Cookii


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