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I never thought going to the ladies room was ever a luxury?
I mean, truth be told, I thought it was a right? You know, I have to go in a public place, and I go...I mean there are case when you have to buy something because only customers can use it, but otherwise, its pretty standard to just ...go.

Well recently a certain state government has taken it upon themselves to almost strip that right away from a group of people , and as usual ,due to ignorance there are citizens who are okay with it....

House Bill Two wants to ban people from using the restroom of the opposite sex of their birth....However it does not create gender neutral spaces nor does it protect LGBTQ people in 'assigned spaces' against violence (from my understanding).

So whats the big deal?

The big deal is the way the media and some politicians have worded it, it makes it some like trans women are pedophiles who are waiting to harm our children.... So as I am reading peoples thoughts and opinions on the issue via Facebook (which is becoming the platform for any simpleton with wifi, I really plan to get rid of it) my spidey senses go in overdrive.....

When have we ever heard about trans people causing harm to children , or unsolicited harm to anyone for this matter? To be completely honest, trans people are typically the victims...

If this was the case, what parent is letting their daughter go to the bathroom alone? I mean I am damn near 30 and I just started going to the bathroom alone (this is a joke,I promise,lol)

Are we not concerned about the trans women (who are already being murdered at alarming rates) being harmed in men's restrooms?

Or can you imagine the stares of a transman going into the women's restroom?

So whats the big deal? 
I am getting to the point....I promise 

We a generation glorify LGBT peoples subculture, style, and slang (Beyonce did not reinvent the wheel, she has a TEAM of LGBT people behind her), but when it comes time to protect their rights as humans (to use the restroom, get married,etc) , its some shade.

I think the actual reason why this subject bothers me,because I often hear it as a topic in conversation of those who look like me. Women of color instantly turn conservative at the thought of a 'man in the women restroom', not realizing several things...

a) You have been using the restroom and fixing your make up next to trans girl for longer than you know, and NEVER KNEW .....And guess what, YOU SURVIVED!

b) We worship King Amyiah's beauty, buy hair and waist trainers from Felicity and go all in for Shauna Brooks on IG, but when it comes time to protect their rights and safety we get real quiet (kind of like how everyone wants to be black until the police come)

c) These laws are not too far from Jim Crow laws that oppressed us as a people..... Just a new victim

d)What someone has in the stall next to you....Isn't your business.

But what do I know, I just write a blog in the Midwest...

I challenge to my readers who aren't up on terms, to step outside of the conservative (and or ignorant) views, and insert the definitions of these words....... Maybe you will open up your mind ;)



an adult who is sexually attracted to young children.


sexual character; possession of the structural and functional traits of sex.


either the male or female division of a species, especially as differentiated by social and cultural roles and behavior


noting or relating to a person whose gender identity does not correspond to that person’s biological sex assigned at birth


Older Use: Sometimes Disparaging. sexually attracted to members of one's own sex


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