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The fluffkini.....

This March I wrote about the 'Fluffkini' and the search for the perfect one....

Shortly after the post I got super down and felt like the trend just was not for me, not because it wasn't cute, or I could not afford the pieces.... Just simply because I just didn't feel like I had the 'right' body type for the trend. I literally stalked hundreds of confident beautiful plus size women who were bold enough to rock their curves,fluff, and tummies via instagram hashtags, looking for a type of body that spoke to mine.... I scrolled through the sites of Monif C, Swimsuit For All, Forever 21, Torrid and Lane Bryant for the perfect pieces....... I knew I couldn't go sit on the beach in some frumpy skirted floral print suit or some boring solid one piece with a family reunion t-shirt over it...

So then I gave up........


 

Well until I got the courage to stroll into my local Lane Bryant last week. And there it was two pieces that normally retailed for well over $50-79 a piece on the clearance rack with an additional 25% off....... I was prepared to hate it, I really was....But I sucked it up tried it on and I did what most females do when they are shopping alone...

I facetimed my BFF and summer boo,who both assured me that I looked great ..... I instantly got anxious,but I didn't punk out! I marched to the cashwrap to purchase my new items,and found out they were $30!

A whole suit for less than $100!!!!

Then this week when my new summer "friend" went to the Monif C show room for the second time this summer,(by my request of course, I know I'm spoiled,HUSH) and picked up a super cute fringe top to match my black bottoms from Lane Bryant.....I am excited to see how this comes together

But then I realized,since I am heading to the beach....I need a 'look' ....Like seriously,I'm not going to be out in a big hat,glasses,etc but I needed a look that I could pull together to go from hotel lobby,to lunch to beach,etc etc....
And plus fluffy girls are winning on the beach right now, and I can't let the team down!

So I went to asos.com and found these super cute,fun and light weight beach pants.....
 
Despite the horrific shopping experience I had with them (I'll save that for another blog), I totally love their look with two of my suits.

I am going out on a limb,and actually practicing the confidence that I preach to other women....If you know me personally, you know this is going to get REAL interesting........

I can't wait to post a few of my looks from this vacation....

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