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Confessions of a fluffkini

So of course swimsuit season is approaching super fast....

A rare photo of me in a swimsuit (Miami 2013)

Am I ready?

Of course not....
I mean yea,I have like suits waiting from a few years ago, one with tags still on it from Torrid (that can be purchased here) ,and another Torrid one that I am not sure if I will keep?

But yea, I am not prepared...Well not mentally at least.... This trend is based on more than just fun prints and colors... It's about body confidence and no longer hiding pieces and parts that are often frowned upon.... Am I ready to join the group of bold women who aren't hiding their stretch marks,bellys and curves behind bulky t-shirts and ugly skirted print suits??

For the past few seasons the plus size girls have been killing two piece suits from Monif C ,Gabri Fresh For Swimsuits For All , Torrid ,and Forever 21+ . I was super on edge about even thinking of wearing one of these....


So I got some courage, grabbed a friend, and carried myself to my local Torrid to try on and hopefully buy my first ever, 'Fluffkini' ...

 
....Yea so that really didn't work......I mean I did NOT look like that,lol
(There were NO fitting room selfies from this one!)

So I looked myself in the mirror and had to figure out exactly WHY I did not look like my favorite fluffy girls Tess HolidayChastity Garner , Gabi Fresh and Chante` .... Being the over thinker I am I got to the root of my disappointments...

Most of these ladies are shorter than me,so our stature is SUPER different... I am 5'9 1/2,
I have more a 'inverted triangle' shape,AND I hadn't really seen any of the fluffies that I mentioned wearing Torrid suits (this being one of the most important parts). So this sets me on a search AGAIN! But this time I know what I am looking for,and how to accessorize it so I can feel confident.....





Maybe I'll make a maxi skirt??

.....We will see, wish me luck!


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