Skip to main content

A fluffy brown girls guide to ...DATING

So after a few interesting conversations,I realized that the art of 'dating' has been lost in people in my age range....You know the 80's babies/90's kids....
So me being the loving blogger I am,I complied a list of dating tips for my lovely readers....


1- The first date is very much like a job interview, one screw up and you will NOT get a call back!
2- Put your phone away, honestly if you are going to text a third party the whole time...GO BE WITH THEM
3-You can't get to know your date at a MOVIE! Sitting in a overpriced dark room with a sticky floor that you can't speak in does not scream ROMANCE
4- Be creative; try art galleries, museums, festivals, fairs..Anyone can just take someone to a movie and dinner...Its not only recession friend but it shows where your date's head is intellectually ...
5- If you take a woman to Applebees for a first date,and you are over the age of 25......Its pretty safe to say her homegirls may laugh at you
6- LADIES! Yes,I am talking to YOU! PLEASE have enough money for your own dinner and a cab home if need be,you never know! 
7- Taking your date on a 'recession friendly' date is FINE! Taking her to a cheap restaurant (ihop,burger king....something that has a coupon in the ValuSaver) is NOT
8- Recently with the newly opened casino in Cleveland, the discussion about taking a date to the Casino has been brought up a lot,there a few tactful ways to approach this....

  • If asking a woman to go to the casino as a date,especially early in the courting, you should count on providing the gambling money,or at least offer
  • Now if she hits the mega million off your money, she is expected to share....However if she does not,not only can you not be mad...BUT you shouldn't have ever dated the  selfish hussie in the first place! 
9- Be on time! Anything more than 7 minutes late and 10 with a call is considered extremely rude and a disrespect of my time in my book.......A chic like me will LEAVE AND NOT SAY A WORD!
10- Gentlemen(and women) HOLD DOORS,PULL CHAIRS,PAY COMPLIMENTS......I DON'T KNOW WHY THIS IS SO FOREIGN TO ALL OF YOU!


Once you take heed to my tips, you will thank me,TRUST ME

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Fashion cues for the Attractive and Mature....

For some reason everyone wants to claim to be 'grown and sexy'.....And for some reason cant dress the part... So Ive created my own phrase "this isnt for the grown and sexy,this is for the mature and attractive"....On the strength that those of us who actually are 'grown and sex' do not have to remind those around us EVERY 5 MINS or attend events named after this fad saying.....Attractive and mature have the form of dress that states it. So take these few helpful hints.... 1-Ladies;your jewelry needs to be simple and functional.A few simple pieces (not made of PLASTIC or from the hair store) say alot ....Perfect examples are.... a cocktail ring a silver 'return to Tiffany&co' bracelet or just something lite to put around your wrist a pearl necklace;classic AND sexy. a plain gold hoops <==NO,i repeat NO doorknockers a pearl earrings 2-Step your shoe game up,purchase a good CLASS pair of shoes What is a good pair of shoes you ask?A good pair of

I kinda did a thing......Nothing major...

  Class of 2020 Photo credit Natasha Herbert

The tale of two identities.

As children, most of us are raised to go to college, get good jobs and strive for greatness. As black children, most of us are raised to go to college, be better than 'them' so you can't be denied, strive for greatness and act accordingly in spaces that are not our own. As a lot of us grow up, we take heed to our lessons, aiming for success, entering spaces (and tax brackets) that weren't able to be accessed by our grandparents and sometimes our own parents, but struggle because we aren't taught the rules of 'the game' nor do we start out from a equal space than our colleagues.  Imagine taking your 5 year old child, telling them they have learn all the 1st grade through 6th grade material at once in a room full of 11 year olds who are already dealing with advance placement work... So we are forced to learn on our own and quickly, how to 'act' ,where to be authentic ourselves, which hairstyles to wear ,what to wear to off hours company events,