Ten things I want for Christmas

1-Chris Browns Bowtie

2-For Kim from the housewives to get a HUMAN hair wig.....and some REAL singing lessons

3-For Jodeci to go to rehab and cut a new album!

4-For someone to invent a relaxer that doesnt burn

5-For people to stop wearing ed hardy already

6-Kanye's bottle of henny

7-Faith in the human race

8-For the real death of the autotune

9-For people to stop wearing $400 jeans in a recession

10-For black men to be MEN

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The tale of two identities.

As children, most of us are raised to go to college, get good jobs and strive for greatness. As black children, most of us are raised to go to college, be better than 'them' so you can't be denied, strive for greatness and act accordingly in spaces that are not our own. As a lot of us grow up, we take heed to our lessons, aiming for success, entering spaces (and tax brackets) that weren't able to be accessed by our grandparents and sometimes our own parents, but struggle because we aren't taught the rules of 'the game' nor do we start out from a equal space than our colleagues. Imagine taking your 5 year old child, telling them they have learn all the 1st grade through 6th grade material at once in a room full of 11 year olds who are already dealing with advance placement work... So we are forced to learn on our own and quickly, how to 'act' ,where to be authentic ourselves, which hairstyles to wear ,what to wear to off hours company events,

I kinda did a thing......Nothing major...

Class of 2020 Photo credit Natasha Herbert

Chapter 7....

Wow.... Thanks for tuning back in, I know I kinda left you hanging after Chapter 6, and it totally wasn't intentional.... But processing the last few months of personal health battles, international pandemics, lack of therapy and some other things, reliving certain parts of 2020 are a struggle. However, we are back! ....My surgeon laughed, 'wow, Silvia?' 'Yea, Silvia... Thats her name', I went on to explain how after my weight loss surgery I named my stomach Shelia. In the process of these procedures, naming things has given me a sense of ownership and control over things I truly don't have any over. My coworkers and manager all address Shelia by name too I signed what seemed like my life away on a stack of papers and tried to ask all the last minute questions I could? But honestly what could I ask.... Silvia and the excess skin were going....period. She gave me a list of instructions for pre and post instructions, the hospital wash (its soo gross),day of ins

Confessions of a Fluffy Girl Trapped in the Midwest

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